Da li su dve nedelje veze prekratak rok za odluku o venčanju? (ANKETA)

Ranije ove sedmice, bivši engleski ragbista, Ben Foden, na Instagramu je obelodanio je da se oženio svojom devojkom Džeki Belanof Smit, posle samo dve nedelje veze.

- Ljudi će reći da smo ludi ili čak budale, ali kad vam neko kao ona uđe u život, zašto bih čekao? - smatra Foden.

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Uz ovo se zahvalio i svojoj bivšoj devojci, pevačici Uni Hili sa kojom ima dvoje dece, za njen blagoslov.

 

 

 

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This last year has been by far my toughest and most turbulent for a number of reasons that many of you I’m sure are aware of, in some way or another. The world has a funny way of working things out, many people think I’m a bad person - as I’m sure they’ll be many nasty comments left under this post by keyboard warriors a plenty. But I met a girl who seriously swept me off my feet and in a time of hardship showed me love, a deep devoted love. People will say we are mad or crazy or even fools, as @snackyjax and I had only been dating seriously for a little over 2 weeks before deciding to get married. But when someone like her comes in to your life, why would I wait? 🤷🏻‍♂️ The people who needed to know, such as close family and friends were told before anyone else and they are happy for me including my beautiful X wife @unahealy who I love even more for her blessing. Life is short and you only get one and it’s worth living. Jackie is the greatest human being I’ve ever come across - she’s beautiful inside and out, intelligent, charming, funny, generous, kind, gentle, energetic the list goes on. 😊 She will be a great step mum to Aoife and Tadhg and offers me a future I can’t wait to explore with her. My heart is full and I honestly couldn’t be happier, so those that want to bring negativity or try and tear me down go ahead. My life is great and I hope you all will one day feel happiness like i feel while I write this caption. I love you @snackyjax I can’t wait to see where our lives lead together you brought excitement and joy to my life and I couldn’t be prouder having stand at my side as Mrs Foden. (BTW the witness is Jackie’s sister @leila.bela thanks you too hun for being a legend) #LoveA post shared by Ben Foden (@ben_foden) on Aug 6, 2019 at 5:45am PDT

Da li ova kratka veza može biti dobar uslov za brak?

- Retkost je upoznati par koji će se venčati posle ovako kratke veze. Parovi koji tako požure obično imaju spoljne faktore koji ih na to uslovljavaju, u vidu odlaska u vojsku, bolesti, finansijskih problema - kaže Brijana Pereli-Haris, profesor na Univerzitetu u Sauthamptonu, ekspert u demografskim trendovima braka i kohabitacije.

Foden i Belanof-Smit su primer termina "direktni brak", u kom se par venčava pre zajedničkog života. Od 1990-ih ovo je postalo izuzetno retko: 70% parova danas živi zajedno pre nego što se venčaju.

- Ljudi postaju nesigurni u svoju vezu, zato što vide da se mnogo brakova završi razvodom, ponekad uključujući i njihove roditelje, pa ne žure - kaže Pereli-Haris.

Foto:Pixabay.com / Tajna uspešnog braka je u dobroj komunikaciji

- Kohabitacija je važan test za zajednički život. Nekadašnja istraživanja su pokazivala da je predbračna kohabitacija bila loša za veze i da su ih parovi prekidali, ali to je danas skoro u potpunosti nestalo. Ljudi danas obično kažu "probaj pre nego što kupiš" - dodaje Pereli-Haris.

Istraživanja su pokazala da će se mnogi parovi venčati ili raskinuti posle tri godine zajedničkog života. Pa da li će brak Fodena i Belanof-Smit potrajati?

- Znamo da je za parove koji su duže živeli zajedno manja verovatnoća da im veza pukne. Mislim da veza Fodena i Belanof-Smit neće potrajati - kroz izvinjenje je izjavila Pereli-Haris.

(Telegraf.rs)